What Not To Wear- Halloween

Halloween is a day reserved for children and grown folks to dress up as anything they want. As kids we dressed up as princesses as super heroes.  Now as adults its like the options have expanded it to include: Sexy nurse, sexy zombie, sexy cat, sexy bus driver, sexy Native American princess, etc.

Everything about these options are problematic.  Why do women’s costumes have to be hypersexual?  But worst than that why do people feel its okay to wear other’s cultures as a costume?   This week’s episode serves as caution for folks to be more careful for their costumes.


P.S. I wish I could prove that this video was recorded a few days before a party took place at UCLA.  Although the party’s theme was to poke fun at  Kanye West and Kim Kardashian some students took this as an opportunity to don black face and perpetuate stereotypes.


5 Things: The Confederate Flag Edition

I celebrate the fact that people (including lawmakers) are calling for the Confederate flag to come down over government buildings.  This really feels like something that should have happened at the end of the Civil War in 1865. The war was lost, there was no more need for the confederate flag. Let. It. Go.


Growing up in the south, this flag was plastered on everything–tee shirts, bumper stickers, lockers, hats, in your neighbor’s yard.  All it took for me was one history class when the teacher explained the origins of the flag for me to question all of my classmates proudly showcasing their confederate paraphernalia as proud daughters and sons of Dixie.  While they were proudly re-imagining their heritage of their ancestors sipping mint julep on the plantation porch, I think of my ancestors doing the back-breaking free labor to plant and harvest the sugar for someone else’s gain.


Every time I see the flag I think of the KKK–because it is a flag they also revere.  Have you ever seen the Klan march? I have–in my state capital of Raleigh and once before that in my small home town. I didn’t know if I should laugh at the fact that these folks are still rocking those ridiculous looking head pieces or cry at the fact there are those that hate me for no other reason than the color of my skin.


The flag of the fallen Confederacy is tied to so many negative aspects of history that they outweigh any positive note (being non-biased) that may exist. There are so many other things I’d prefer witnessing over seeing another Confederate flag. The following are my top five.

1. Stomp my baby toe on a burning hot steel plated concrete boulder. Yes I’d rather endure this painful experience 100 times than the flag to fly over another government building.


2. Hearing someone brush their teeth. If you know me, you know this is the most excruciating sound in the world to me. To raise the stakes–that person could be brushing their teeth with a brand new Brillo pad while chewing on rocks and scratching their nails on the chalk board. That would definitely give me a nervous tick and eye twitch. Yet, I would subject myself to this torture than to see that banner yet wave.


3. Listen to early Justin Bieber on repeat. Please see number 2.


4. Translate the Aeneid. This thing is like a million pages long!  Did this in high school Latin class but I still can’t speak Latin. It was painful but willing to do it again–without looking up translations online. It may take me a year to do but it’s so much more preferable over the Confederate flag.

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5. Cramps. I’m talking full on PMS ugly gut punching puke inducing cramps. No Midol, no heat pad, no tea. Yup. I disdain the flag that much.



Media Lies

In the past few years, our country has been ravished by images of unarmed black men losing their lives at the hand of police officers. At first these high profile cases would simply garner the attention of the media, people would debate whether or not prejudice played a role, the officer involved would either not be charged or get a slap on the hand, people would be shocked and life would continue as normal.  As these images became more and more frequent, people have taken notice and taken a stand against such brutality.  As in tradition in the United States—from the Tea Party, the Revolutionary War, the Woman’s Suffrage Movement to Civil Rights—Americans of all races have united and marched against injustices. Thousands gathered together to peacefully protest.

But let the news tell it…



I don’t know if media is even trying to be accurate in reporting or if they are simply going for ratings. Everything seems to be over sensationalized.  I can’t tell if I am watching a tele novella, TMZ or news.


There are so many issues with the way news outlets have chosen to cover the victims of police brutality and the subsequent protest.  Let’s start with the first issue.  Victim shaming—generally when a black person has been apprehended (and in this case killed) by police officers, media outlets begin to question the victim’s motives and history. Often times, these victims are labelled as thugs- which often translates to a bad person not worthy of living.  http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/08/14/media-black-victims_n_5673291.html


If this reporting was standard across the board, I could accept the language used. However, it has been proven that white serial killers are treated better in media then other people of color. There is usually no speculation as to whether they are given respect—a dead man can’t get the same love.

There is also an issue in how media treats the uprisings.  Instead of covering the powerful peaceful images—news channels are quick to cover the small majority of individuals causing havoc. Again if the news treated all fire starting, car flipping, and couch burning incidents were covered the same way.  But sadly, they aren’t.  When these same exact events happen after sporting events it is just chalked up to being passionate about sports. Talk about double standards. thatsmessedup

So people can be passionate about their sports team winning or losing but you can’t be outraged about the increasing numbers of unarmed people being killed by policeman? Our priories are screwed!

Come out the closet!

#ToastTip- If you are going to be bold enough to share your racist, sexist, homophobic opinions with the world then please be bold enough to NOT be anonymous when you share.

Have you ever scrolled down the comment sections on youtube or after some article on facebook? If so, then you know the type of comments that can occur. Many of them are offensive on every level.  People spew so much hate in the comfort of their own home right behind the computer screen because they can be anonymous.  And these people pick on any and everything they ever felt that they might hate.  Blacks, Asians, Mexicans, gays, old people, children, cats, disabled pets, World War II Vets, Oreos…nothing is off topic for these people…

The level of online hatred is rather disgusting.  I’d rather people be vile and rude to my face instead of hiding in their anonymity….at least I know how you feel. I’m encouraging people to come out of the hatred closest.  Be who you are! I’m sure you will either feel way better for being true to yourself OR maybe you will realize how dumb you really sound when your ignorant ways are posted on on of my favorite blogs, Public Shaming.