Naturally Acceptable

Over the past 10 years there has been a wave of women tossing away  chemicals and rocking their own natural texture hair.That means lots of folks came to a rude awakening when they realized black girls hair was not actually silk and straight—its actually curly, coily and in my instance puffy. Some folks had a conniption—old black folks who didn’t understand why anyone would step out the house looking unkempt, employers who thought it unprofessional to walk around making political statement in office and the general population who equated straight hair with beauty because lets face it—our beauty standards are based on the presence of Eurocentric features—straight hair, fair skin, small nose.

As people grow more used to seeing variation of textured hair, there are a few things you may need to know. Consider this weekly update as your 5 things on what not to say, do or assume to/about a woman with natural hair.

I wanna know your thoughts! What else should folks know about the natural hair movement?

Internet Manners

It is true what they say, they internet has no chill whatsoever. I’m learning that people can be so cleaver but lately I’ve been feeling somewhat convicted for laughing at something that in real life is just flat out mean. If our virtual conversations reflect how we treat others in real life then humanity is filled with heartless bullies.

Would you really say what you share on line to someone’s face? Could we get away with the stuff we say in real life? Are celebrities excused because they are famous? Does the rule “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all” apply to the world wide web?

I want to know your thoughts.  Watch my latest video blog and let me know what you think.

Admittedly I’m not sure where I stand with having children of my own.  Ideally if I have kids I need to be married—because children are too much work to have on your own and I am all about the delegation of duties.  Whenever I see a baby my ovaries do a little backflip but then they cry and I am immediately put off by the idea.

Then I hang with my friends’ kids, they are all pretty cool and I love them to death.  But then I invite my friend to go hang out and they are all like “nahhh, I have to take so in so to dance class then soccer practice and after that cook dinner.” And I’m all like “oh—I’m pretty sure our idea of fun are two different things”. Somehow that statement always follows a lecture about how I’m not getting any younger and how I need to start thinking about settling down.  My response is usually, “Oh me, I don’t want kids” and that spins into a whole different discussion.

I need for Pope Francis to tell me where in the Bible it says that not wanting to have kids is selfish. Or maybe not—I don’t want to feel convicted.  If having kids is a prerequisite to womanhood then me, Oprah, Barbie and a whole lot of women are in trouble.

Check out my newest weekly update and let me know your thoughts!

Teenagers. WTF?

I know at one point in time I was a teenager. I also understand that teenagers sometimes makes foolish decisions.  But lately I’m convinced that teenagers are getting even more ridiculous in their life decisions and social media is not helping.

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A group of teens together are bound to breed foolery.  It is this mob mentality that are getting teens to hop on the #KylieJennerChallenge.  Get a shot glass, insert lips, suck out all the air and voila! Full lips.  It sounds like a sensible/ affordable way to get plump lips.  But the problems with teens, and some adults is that they don’t think through things.

My first thought would have been—how would I get my lips out.  Will it hurt or bruise.  Obviously, I am a adverse to pain. But these adolescents are about that life. There was also the Fire Challenge.  Folks pouring alcohol on themselves then setting themselves on fire, running around the house and back to the tub to douse the fire. Um, have you ever heard of 3rd degree burns? You are straight putting your life in danger. On the same level of “I don’t really want to live this life” is the salt and ice challenge-without giving details just know that the risk involve 3rd degree burns as well.

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When I heard of the condom challenge, my faith in teenage humanity was restored. I was thinking, “That’s great kids are encouraging each other to have safe sex.” Nope. I was wrong. These kids were snorting condoms and pulling out of their mouth without thinking there is a possiblity of choking and dying! How embarrasing would it be to die because you choked on a condom? I don’t understand this sort of collective stupidity.

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Whatever happened to the less insane challenges–I dare you to eat a hot pepper or eat several saltine crackers without drinking water? Those challenges are dumb but less dangerous. It scares me to think that one day I may have a kid and that kid will become a teenager and that teen may end up participating in these ill planned, life threatening games. Parenting tops my list of scary things—right there below a sexless marriage.