The next time I talk to my friend and he tells me about how he and his picture perfect family (wife and two kids) spent the day together doing nice family things and I respond “how blessed you are” and then he replies “you got your siblings” I promise I will say some unkind words!
I hate smug married/coupled up people’s condescending remarks to single people. Okay, I know he probably wasn’t trying to be the smug douche that he came off as…in fact I can say that some of it had to do with me and the fact that I am pretty much over being single. But c’mon people in relationships! Do I really need to give you a list of what NOT to say to people who are single?
I won’t give you a full list but just know that some of the things on the list include: 1) I remember when I was single, it was so much easier or 2) you are so lucky, you don’t know how good you have it or 3) you’re not lonely, you have your mom/dad/brother or sister.
Seriously? If you say these things, you deserve to be kicked in your throat. But that is not why I am writing. I am writing mostly because I had my own personal “aha” moment. I realized that although I am over being single, I have not committed to the idea of dating.
I am probably one of the few women who HATES dating. The entire process is so phony to me. Everyone sends their representative, says all the things that they think you want to hear, plays childish dating games and ultimately end up wasting precious time and emotions. Listen, I am over 30. I don’t have time to play college games. What are we doing? Can I get to know the real you? If you are only looking for sex, I am not the one. If you are only looking to “kick it” go away. These are the things I hate having to sift through. I don’t understand why it takes so much work.
I am fine with committing to my career. I am fine working long hours and sacrificing sleep for something I know will yield a benefit. When it comes to dating, I am not willing to do the same thing for a maybe. And I can admit that I’m tired of my heart being hurt so I am extra cautious. I really just have a low tolerance for bullshit. Is it possible to date without the crap?
My biological clock is ticking and I currently am the living version of Katherine Heigl’s character in 27 dresses… how’s the online dating scene?