The Jacked Up Part About Long Distance Relationships

My friends and family live all over the world.  This used to be contributed to the fact that my dad is from Cameroon, West Africa so naturally half of my family would live in Africa.  Then I grew up and it seemed like everyone I knew moved away.  Well, I moved to Los Angeles kind of putting myself at a distance but then everyone else started to scatter as well.  I have a brother in Denver a sister in China and my bff lives in Florida!  What did people do before cellphones and internet?

Whoever said “absence makes the heart grow fonder” was definately a person trying to find the positive side to being forever away from the people that they loved the most.  I used to think the grow fonder part meant distance will make you love that person more. However, I have found that growing fonder is a nice way of saying “makes you miss the hell out of the people you love the most a whole lot”.


For most of my adult life I have lived far away from my family and my best friends.  And  while it has been a worthwhile experience, there are times that living far away from your loved ones just straight up SUCKS! There are the obvious times when being away sucks like when a friend has a baby or gets engaged or when someone gets seriously ill but there are also the times you miss being from your family that are completely selfish.

When you have seriously juicy gossip and the first person you want to share it with is your sister who lives in China and you can’t call because she is either at work or is sleep.


When you go through a break up and you need your best friend to console you and google hangout just won’t do.


When I’m sick and dying and the only 3 people in the world who know how to make my deathbed feel better is mom, dad and grandma… all of whom live on the opposite coast.


Sometimes you just want to go on a Chipotle run with someone who doesn’t mind splitting the chips and guac with you.  Me and my bestie split everything, including calories!


The times I miss my friends and family the most is when I just need a hug and virtual hugs won’t do.


Even though I have accepted long distance as a fact of life, I am grateful for g-chat, skype chipotle dates with my bff and awesome mini-reunions to get me through!

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